YES, YES and again YES. It is a known FACT, by everyone and anyone who has a little bit of intelligence or half a brain that ACTIONS definitely speak louder than words!
This statement is a Zen Proverb that belongs to Muso Kokushi, a Japanese Zen Master, Calligrapher and Poet. This Zen master dreamt that he was told to protect a portrait of Dumara Daishi and thereafter knew that Zen was his destiny. He proceeded to study Zen at a temple. After which he proceeded to become famous.
This life story of Muso Kokushi “speaks” of the statement he makes. He did not talk too much about his dream of becoming this Zen Master, but he went out and did it!
Kokushi’s statement is relevant to various aspects of daily life. It can also be tied in with numerous other sayings and idioms which all come down to the same thing: DO MORE AND SAY LESS!
People so often say things, usually to impress others and prove you are better than them. But
90% of the time, these words cannot be backed by your actions. If you want people to believe what you say (your words) you should “speak” with your actions.
What is the use of saying that smoking is unhealthy and leads to an early, slow and painful death, but then these marketers smoke up to thirty (or even 40??!!) cigarettes per day. How is this message then supposed to be taken serious by the various audiences???
Practice what you preach, this is the only way what you do and say will be respected and trusted.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
It is a poor idea to lie to yourself
"False words are not only evil in themselves, but they infect the soul with evil." Socrates
Lying is something you do by choice. You think about what you want to say and then act on it. It is a conscious decision made. Thus it is controllable and utterly WRONG!
Well, some white lies may be justified! When your sister is pregnant and she asks if she looks fat, you cannot reply by saying, “Yes, actually you look like Shrek’s wife Fiona!” You are obligated to tell a little white lie and say,” No, you have never looked so beautiful.” If you refrain from doing so, you may end-up losing your sister indefinitely and be cut from any duties as aunt of the unborn baby!
However lying to yourself is a very different story. What is your favourite lie about yourself? Is it that you are a fun-loving human being and the truth is that you hate life and would rather commit suicide? The reality of it is that lying ALWAYS backfires.
By lying to yourself, you are trying to justify something which is wrong or not true. You never learn to deal with the truth and certain issues efficiently and you obtain a mental state of “there is nothing wrong with lying.” It is like being an alcoholic. The first step to recovery is admitting that you are one, and then taking various measures to recover. Lying will only set you back, and escalate into something more serious.
By adopting such a state of mind, you may also feel comfortable lying to others. All trust in you will be lost. With no trust, you can have no relationships. And like Abraham Lincoln said: “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.”
Lying is something you do by choice. You think about what you want to say and then act on it. It is a conscious decision made. Thus it is controllable and utterly WRONG!
Well, some white lies may be justified! When your sister is pregnant and she asks if she looks fat, you cannot reply by saying, “Yes, actually you look like Shrek’s wife Fiona!” You are obligated to tell a little white lie and say,” No, you have never looked so beautiful.” If you refrain from doing so, you may end-up losing your sister indefinitely and be cut from any duties as aunt of the unborn baby!
However lying to yourself is a very different story. What is your favourite lie about yourself? Is it that you are a fun-loving human being and the truth is that you hate life and would rather commit suicide? The reality of it is that lying ALWAYS backfires.
By lying to yourself, you are trying to justify something which is wrong or not true. You never learn to deal with the truth and certain issues efficiently and you obtain a mental state of “there is nothing wrong with lying.” It is like being an alcoholic. The first step to recovery is admitting that you are one, and then taking various measures to recover. Lying will only set you back, and escalate into something more serious.
By adopting such a state of mind, you may also feel comfortable lying to others. All trust in you will be lost. With no trust, you can have no relationships. And like Abraham Lincoln said: “You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.”
Not ALL who wander are lost
According to the dictionary a wanderer is defined as; “To proceed in an irregular course.”
The statement suggests that some wanderers are in fact lost...but to me to wander means to search. To be lost suggest that you will not be found. But, in life wanderers who search do find their destination in life.
People search all their lives for their little niche in society. The place where they fit, a place where they feel comfortable and where they can be themselves .It is part of human nature to be uncertain in some aspects of life. You date a skater-boy only to find that you actually prefer a jock, you eat steak only to find you are a vegetarian, you participate in sports only to find that you are only interested in poetry. Ultimately you find your destination.
The wandering stage of one’s life is not always a pleasant stage. You may be teased for dressing like Madonna (you thought you looked like her and thought people would find you interesting) .You may be ridiculed for singing in the school choir (you are a boy who want to impress the girls, and they all seem to like the singing sensation of the Backstreet Boys) This is a stage of uncertainty, a stage of unknown.
This wandering eventually brings you to your destination, the place where you want to be...a place where you are allowed to be YOU and accepted for it.
The statement suggests that some wanderers are in fact lost...but to me to wander means to search. To be lost suggest that you will not be found. But, in life wanderers who search do find their destination in life.
People search all their lives for their little niche in society. The place where they fit, a place where they feel comfortable and where they can be themselves .It is part of human nature to be uncertain in some aspects of life. You date a skater-boy only to find that you actually prefer a jock, you eat steak only to find you are a vegetarian, you participate in sports only to find that you are only interested in poetry. Ultimately you find your destination.
The wandering stage of one’s life is not always a pleasant stage. You may be teased for dressing like Madonna (you thought you looked like her and thought people would find you interesting) .You may be ridiculed for singing in the school choir (you are a boy who want to impress the girls, and they all seem to like the singing sensation of the Backstreet Boys) This is a stage of uncertainty, a stage of unknown.
This wandering eventually brings you to your destination, the place where you want to be...a place where you are allowed to be YOU and accepted for it.
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